Why is this Corona Virus Making us so Unhappy and What Can We Do?
I have to say that I woke up sad today. It is very unlike me to wake up sad so it took awhile for me to really analyze why I was feeling this way and once I identified it, I felt a lot better.
Here it is:
Easter has been cancelled this year for all intents and purpose. We are all on lock down and there are no big meals prepared with and for our loved ones.
There are no Easter egg hunts, no beautiful Easter dresses on the ladies at Easter mass.
There are no flowers and no music. There is no feeling of renewed life that we can share with each other.
There is no thanking God with all of our loved ones present that Winter is over and a new beginning has arrived in all its glory.
I know enforced isolation is necessary in these highly unusual circumstances but it can be very damaging to us spiritually if we do not know how to combat it.
People are all different but two of the most important things we have in common are communication with each other, with life, with the world around us, and aesthetics, a love of all things beautiful.
And everyone I know who travels does so for these two reasons.
Think about it. When we travel somewhere to see the brightly colored markets in Turkey or when we head to Italy to taste the amazing cuisine, we are looking forward to communication to this new (to us) world around us.
When we walk in the evening Passegiatta we look at each other and smile. We are communicating. When we order our dinner in faulty Italian and laugh at our pronunciation and grammar mistakes, we are communicating. When we study history, we are communicating with the past. It is all about communication.
We also look to the aesthetics, the stunning buildings, the amazing art work, and the cultural rituals and practices that we find beautiful. We pay more in hotels for a room with a beautiful view. Again, it is all about communication and aesthetics; communication and beauty.
So it is no surprise that we become edgy and upset when we are denied communication with each other and the world. We also get upset when we are denied the opportunity to see or even create beauty.
So cancelling a holiday such as Easter can give us this reaction of sadness and upset.
So what do we do about it?
Create something beautiful
One of my favorite ways of fighting the blues is to create something beautiful. In my case I have spent a lot of time creating our new Facebook group “All About Italy” which is a group of people who love Italy. It is a great group who freely share beautiful photos and videos, recipes, thoughts and ideas.
For this reason the page itself is very aesthetic and the group is in really nice communication with each other.
If you love Italy feel free to go and join.
Really work to stay in communication with your friends and family.
When we start to feel down, we tend to with draw. This just makes the problem worse. Pick up the phone or better yet, schedule a FaceTime session with your kids. Write letters and emails just to stay in touch. Check on your relatives. You will feel better.
Plan something great for the future
Our village in Italy is in lock down right now but soon Summer will come and the sharp sunlight will creep through our windows in the morning, waking us up with the promise of so many fun and exciting things.
There will be coffees and cornetti in the piazza with friends.
There will be parties on the roof terraces overlooking the sea where we laugh together and share stories while sipping perfect Prosecco and munching on Italian snacks.
There will be exciting days spent designing and starting on our new BNB in the piazza.
There will be endless opportunities to discover new treasures. I hear that there is a specialty farm that creates the most perfect ricotta near our village. We need to explore this!
I also found that there is an olive farm below us turning out highly crafted olive oil for us to explore and enjoy.
Pete and I have so many projects in the works and it does make us feel happy and excited to talk to each other about them and create them day after day.
If you need some ideas go check out the Super Savvy Youtube channel. We have some very cool content there and I am sure you will find some ideas to jump start your creative flows.
I know this is a tough time but I also hear great news for the coming weeks. This will not last forever and we will come out of it stronger with a renewed love of the things we might have taken for granted at some point.
Meanwhile Hang On! and work to create opportunities for beauty and more communication. This will make you feel better and it also helps those around you more than you can possibly imagine.
Sending all my best! See you in the piazza!